WISDOM 4 WINNING 15/02/2014

REALLY NEED THAT?

"You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity." - Epicurus

"I want a divorce." She didn’t seem to be annoyed, she asked softly, "why?" That night, we didn’t talk. Like Jesus, she wept. I could hardly give her an answer.

I drafted a divorce agreement. She glanced at it and tore it in pieces. I felt sorry for her; but I couldn't take back what I had said. I loved another now. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed clearer now. I came back home next day, she was writing something at the table. I went straight to bed and slept. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything, she needed a month’s notice. In that one month we were both to live as normal a life as possible. Our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn't want him seeing us divorce. She demanded I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning for that period. This was crazy but I accepted.

When I carried her out the first day, it felt absurd; we hadn't had body contact in a while and we both appeared funny. Our son saw us and laughed his little ribs off in excitement. I was touched by his words. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked with her in my arms. She said softly; don’t tell our son about it. I nodded and put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to work.

The second day, was easier. As she leaned on me. I realized that I hadn’t looked at her in a long while. She wasn't as young any more. Fine wrinkles creased her face, her hair graying - our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered. On the fourth day, when I lift her up, I felt a something. This woman had given her life to me. On the 5th and 6th days, I realized intimacy returning. It became fun carrying her as the month slipped by.

She was choosing what to wear one morning, she said, "all my dresses have grown bigger." I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin. It hit me. she had buried so much pain in her heart. I reached out and touched her. Our son came in at the moment and said, "Daddy, it’s time to carry mummy." To him, it had become a sight. She gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I then held her, her hand around my neck; it was just like old times - felt good.

I drove to work, rushed out of the car. Afraid any delay would change my mind. Walked upstairs. I said to Jane, "I do not want a divorce anymore." She looked at me, "Do you have a fever? She said." "Sorry, Jane", I said. My marriage was boring probably because of my selfishness, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realized so. I was to hold her till death. On the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers. "I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart." Written on it. I arrived home, flowers in hand, smiles on my face, I ran upstairs, found my wife in bed – dead. She'd been fighting CANCER, and I didn't even notice.

As you read this this morning. Re-evaluate that relationship with your spouse. Bring the spice back. Divorce isn't the answer. It will work, if only you work it. Having soap in your hand doesn't make it clean, but rubbing both hands together under running water.

Beloved, if you think of giving up, remember why you started in the first place...it was worth it then. It still is now. If her beauty astonished you then it still can now. Look closely. Another marriage isn't the answer, neither is another relationship. Get to work. Make it work.

WISDOM NUGGET:Colossians 3:23
"Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men..."

Let us pray: Father, bring life back into my relationships today in Jesus name.

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Author: Unknown - Saturday, 15 February 2014